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The Fasting Focused Lifestyle Blog 

Greetings friend. 

Thanks for checking out my blog. This is the space where you will be able to keep tabs on whats new in my world, as well as constant sources of inspiration, reflection, and motivation for you to use on your fasting journey.

 

Remember, I believe in you, even if you dont!


At the Virginia rest stop, finding my happy place in my recent travels

Some of you may have been following my journey since I started sharing it back in 2018, and many are brand new to my story, so I felt it was time for a helpful re-introduction.


So, hello, my name is Vicki, and I have now shed over 200 pounds. (I don’t say "lost" because I have no intention of finding them again!)




So much has happened since I embarked on my fasting journey at the beginning of August 2018. When I began, I was in a dark place emotionally, having recently lost two grandparents within a ten-month period. They were my only family members who lived close by, and their passing left a huge emotional burden on me.


Let’s face it: I ate my feelings, leading me to a very dark place.

But honestly, it wasn't only their deaths that brought me to the way I was.


For my entire life, until coming into fasting, I was "Vicki, the big girl." I'd often be called "weirdo" and often deliberately made to feel unwanted or welcome. Eating non-stop was soothing and satisfying when those emotions were high, but the more I ate, the worse things became. This went on for years and intensified when my mom died at the young age of 36 (I was 16). This also created an irrational fear that I, too, could die early like her. No matter the emotion, I coped with it by eating to excess, and every previous attempt at weight loss resulted in no permanence because of my inability to handle my "inner eating monster."


After my life-long pity party began to feel like an unwelcome guest, I started thinking about ways I knew to lose weight. Previously, I had followed a semi-keto-style program. I dove into YouTube and accidentally discovered a testimonial video about fasting. I was so intrigued that I watched many more videos by other credible sources, but I was still in disbelief that fasting could work for me. I was sure of it because nothing else I had tried was successful.


I started with a 16:8 fasting schedule for about two weeks and went down 21 pounds. Since that was successful, I then upped the ante to 20:4, then 23:1, progressing to One Meal A Day (OMAD), and eventually some extended fasting. Whenever I broke my fast, I was conscious of consuming minimally processed foods, minimal sugar and carbs, and maintaining a meat-free diet.

Only a few months later, I realized I had discovered the gold mine of health and weight loss.


Plant-based chili with air fryer potato wedges

I had a fire under me and never wanted to look back to how things were before. I conquered my emotional eating within a few months and had all the momentum I needed to continue with fierce determination!


Fast forward to the end of April 2019, when we found out that my husband was diagnosed with congestive heart failure (CHF) and was in dire need of a transplant. After seven months of going in and out of the hospital, fighting infections, and progressively getting weaker by the day, my husband lost his battle. He went into hospice on our wedding anniversary, and then two days later, on November 10, 2019, he passed.


During his last few days, I felt myself naturally regress into what I knew would keep me emotionally level and prevent me from slipping back into sabotaging habits.

I fasted.


I fasted my face off because I knew my late husband would be upset if I let myself go like a grieving widow could. Instead, I used my grief as a force to propel me forward—not just for myself but to keep my health as optimal as possible for our children, too. That’s how I honor my husband, his memory, and our future.

Feeding my emotional monster is not.

My kids and I, Hampton Beach, NH

Many have asked me about how I stay so focused, determined, or consistent in my daily efforts, and my answer is always the same.

This lifestyle is my ticket to a long life, period. My previous lifestyle habits were going to bring me an early death; I felt it, and I knew it. Fasting to balance my body and mind became an identity and personal mantra that I passionately advocate to others. It's become not just my personal way of life, but it's now my mission in my one-woman-owned small business, reaching clients worldwide.


I share my story to hopefully inspire you, dear reader, to show you that fasting as a lifestyle tool can help you achieve more than you realize. I have welcomed everything this journey brings: the good and not-so-great days, and you should, too.


Bad days will happen, y’all. The key is learning to love those bad days just as much as the good ones because this life journey is totally and completely yours, and you have to own your "ish," as my late husband would say.

I can do difficult things, and so can you!

Now let's go get your after!

💛 Vicki


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It's now May, but I am still thinking about how impactful my 40th birthday has been since March 1st.


In my life, as you may have already heard or read, there have been many deaths and losses that happened much sooner than they genuinely needed to, and maybe you have, too.


I have learned from these experiences that we must understand that our time here is finite.


Understanding the impermanence of our lives can be very scary and paralyzing for some, and believe me, I've been there.


Initially, I felt dread and lots of anxiety about this specific upcoming birthday because of the early age of my mother's passing at 36 years old, but I have been thinking and reflecting quite a bit recently.


I am very grateful for every aspect of my life, and you should be, too. My past influences every bit of who I am, including all the beauty and pain.


Your life is happening FOR you, not TO you! This is an important thing to remember without judgment or self-ridicule.

Do you find yourself pausing to take opportunities to show gratitude for everything in your life?


I understand it may be hard to practice initially, but it's not impossible.


Try this: The next time you're in the restroom or can see yourself in a mirror, take a moment (at least 1 minute), look yourself in the eyes, and think:

Thank you for this body.

Thank you for this breath.

I am so thankful for this beautiful life.

I love you.


It may feel weird and disingenuous at first, but I promise you that if you keep this practice up on your journey, it will get easier.

It can be a tremendously impactful practice as your mindset shifts towards self-compassion and empathy for who you are becoming.


Like I tell many of my fasting clients, your mindset is everything on this weight loss journey with fasting because your lifestyle tool allows you to realize that this process is so much deeper than just an attempt to lose weight. Practicing that awareness regularly can make a tremendous difference, not just on your journey, but has the potential to influence the rest of your life (and maybe many around you as well).


I have carefully crafted my mindset like my permanent and wearable trophy. It allows me to see through the hardships as opportunities for moments of gratitude and not take the blissful moments in life for granted.


My deepest passion is that you understand that you are also JUST AS CAPABLE of achieving the same unique level of loving gratitude for the body you own and the life you lead.


None of us are promised tomorrow; I am sure we all know and understand this. But with all the deaths and losses I’ve experienced, I now know the value of making the most of the time we have in this life. I find purpose in helping others like you uncover this meaningful component on their journeys.


I will passionately continue making a difference in this world, being the change I wish to see in others who need it.


You must know that you deserve to have as many birthdays as possible.


Many folks know they need to improve their health but don’t yet see the urgency that life can be mercilessly short.


If this is you, I want to tell you that time will pass whether we take action or not.


The time you have left in this life is completely in your control. But also remember that your weight loss journey shouldn't be something you rush through or wish to be "done with already."


Please trust me when I tell you your hardships, stressors, and subsequent stress-eating habits can be improved. You aren't stuck and do not need to keep the labels or judgments others have unwittingly placed on you.


I encourage you to trust your body's innate and instinctual ability to thrive on your fasting journey, but you don't have to travel this path alone.


If you haven't yet had a chance to meet with me for a virtual fasting consult but would like to, I have a treat for you.



Again, I wish to help YOU live your longest, healthiest life with fasting as your lifestyle tool, and I am confident with every cell in my (now 40-year-old) body that YOU CAN DO THIS because, as I always say, I believe in YOU, even if you don’t.


Let's get your after,

Vicki



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Where have I been?


I had the best intentions for this post, I really did. I started writing it in the Orlando International Airport and had plenty of time to prepare, I had it all mapped out in my mind and in my notes.


But as you can see below, the post remained unfinished until today.


 

(I initially started this post on 3/5/24)

Currently, I am typing this from the Orlando International Airport. I am touching base with some fasters while I have time before I go to my gate to board.


For those that missed my update, I am currently en route to Ikaria, Greece, to visit this Blue Zone again, as a more in-depth visit, similar to my last trip there in the summer of 2022.


Today, before I go into my update, I wanted to genuinely give a tremendous extension of gratitude to you all first and foremost for having patience with me as I have been navigating this challenging part of my life.

Letting any of my podcast and regular communication slip was not an intention, but a temporary need to maintain my health and wellness as well as authenticity. I knew if I made any attempts to put together an episode or blog content with what I was currently having to handle, the quality would be less than what I have come to expect from myself.


So I focused on the bigger picture instead of getting hung up on the day-to-day details. I also found tremendous opportunities to pare down and simplify many things. Even after 4 years of being a great tenant to our landlords in our rental home, the owner decided he wanted to sell the house instead of renting, and I was not in any position to purchase, so we are moving.


Major unexpected life changes and challenges were a big contribution to my previous weight before my success with my fasting lifestyle.


There were so many quick abrupt and out of nowhere changes that happened throughout my life. I grasped the victim card as my identity from a very early age, not letting go until I started having success with my fasting lifestyle.


This is something that I see in various forms in my fasting clients, and it always prompts me to give a generous virtual hug, because I know what it's like to feel stuck and broken for so long. But I will always remind my folks that those small careful, deliberate steps can and will take you in the right direction for yourself and your future.


 

Where Am I Going?

Today, over a month later...

I am home from this trip and I am ready to catch everyone up! (I did share my daily sort of photo check-ins on my Facebook page (if you found me from here).


I am happy to say that I am back to a regular podcasting schedule again! :) (Thanks again for your patience and understanding!)

With the new podcast episode, I finally took actionable steps to attach this week's podcast episode to this blog post like I have always wanted to do, and I am proud.


Later this week, however, I will go back to Greece again to figure out the next set of plans for my family's future. But I want to let you all know that unlike last time, I will not be blocking off my calendar for my fasting consults, instead, I will be only closing off the ability to book same-day consults. I am still always eagerly ready to continue to support you! :)


I am thankful that despite the challenges I face, there are elements in my present that I can think about with gratitude instead of succumbing to a victim, frozen mindset as I have previously done so often.


Like the ability to travel, I have ALWAYS loved the hustle and bustle of the airport.


I LOVE people-watching, seeing folks from all around the world, from little kids to the elderly. It's incredibly fascinating to me and yet I am also reminded about how my present situation is also a poignant reminder of our weight loss attempts with fasting as a lifestyle tool.


I LOVE how the concept of traveling allows us to go where we want to go with minimal travel supplies with us. This has taught me incredible flexibility, empathy, and patience for being okay with having and living with less. This understanding has been incredibly helpful to tap into while the entire contents of my rental home were picked through and sold off to people I had never met before, at prices I never knew I would have to assign.


I LOVE how the moments here and there are available for me to observe my current environment with indescribable gratitude. I get to explore and experience my upcoming adventures in big life changes, no matter how new and potentially scary they may feel at times.


Traveling, no matter if just up the road, or across the world, always seems to bring me a sense of peace and appreciation for the world we live in. I love embracing the adventurous spirit that traveling allows me.


What about you? Have you also had any exciting adventures or big life changes recently? Email me, vicki@thefastingfocusedlifestyle.com

 

As always, big virtual hugs to you, and please remember,

I believe in you, even if you don't.




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